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Jul. 24th, 2006

I have two [1] radio stations programmed into my car, one in New York, and one in Philadelphia. At the beginning of the month, when I was driving around to wedding and barbecue and all, both stations were having an Eighties Weekend.

I heard the song Come On Eileen, by Dexys Midnight Runners, three times that weekend. That's not a problem, because I've always been fond of the song. [2]

Because of the wedding, I was thinking about dancing. I love dancing, but several of the weddings I've been to recently haven't had much of music I can just bounce around to. It's lovely to watch people swing-dancing or ballroom dancing, but not as much fun when you don't have either a partner, or the training. In my opinion, it only takes one or the other. If you know what you're doing, you can dance with other people who know what they're doing and it's all good. If you have a partner you're used to dancing with, or have good chemistry with, then it doesn't matter if you know what you're doing, because you're having fun. People who are having fun together look good even if they aren't following the form everyone else expects.

So, I'm listening to Come On Eileen, and it strikes me that this is really the song I want to be able to dance to with someone. It's not fancy or formal, it's just a song from the 80s. It isn't a complex rhythm, either. The tempo just makes it tricky because it accelerates, and I would need to know both the song and my partner to keep the right pace, instead of tripping up and dissolving into giggles - which admittedly would be fun, but not the same.

I want to dance with someone with a strong enough lead that I will follow instead of trying to lead myself. I want to dance together often enough that we can anticipate each other's movements, or establish a regular pattern. And I want to dance well to Come On Eileen.

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[1] I also have several AM stations programmed, and I think a classical station as well, so it's really more than two, but I only listen to those two regularly.

[2] My middle name is Aileen, pronounced the same way, and it's kind of neat to hear your name in a song. OK, middle name... but how many songs can you think of about girls named Stephanie? There is at least one, because one of the guys on the Egypt trip would sing a bit of it to me from time to time, but I have no idea what it was and I've certainly never heard it on the radio.

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leftsphenoid
Jul. 24th, 2006 05:33 pm (UTC)
the dancing contract...
>I want to dance with someone with a strong enough lead that I will >follow instead of trying to lead myself. I want to dance together often >enough that we can anticipate each other's movements, or >establish a regular pattern.

part of that is just deciding to let yourself be led. we walk around all day deciding where to go, what to do, and then you step out on the dance floor and your lead expects you to just turn your brain off, giving them total control of your body for three minutes. it's tough! but it's so cool when it works. and the more you dance with someone the less you should anticipate their movements. you get more comfortable with their lead and know they'll tell you exactly what to do and how to do it, you just need to listen. i was working on that yesterday with carl and i was really managing to follow and he was pulling all this really cool and fun stuff that he'd not done before- and he could do it because i waited for him to tell me what to do. anticipation kills that. it severely limits what he can do...
and after dancing with a few guys for the past year who have a pattern of moves that they do to every song, regardless of tempo or style- sucks! ;) it's the variety that's so much fun!

>And I want to dance well to Come On Eileen.

honestly, for me that would be a hard song to dance to... but hey, if a guy could lead it ;)
leftsphenoid
Jul. 24th, 2006 05:35 pm (UTC)
Re: the dancing contract...
ooh, i forgot to explain the contract part...
for social dancing, as a woman, you're generally a follow.
and the contract you sign says that you do just that, you follow.

as my instructors say- easy to say, hard to do....

:)
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