January 31st, 2006

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Grandma - the email I didn't want to get

From: Lucas, John A
To: "Alex (business)", Stephanie Lucas
Date: Jan 31, 2006 8:52 AM
Subject: The message we've been dreading

Mom got a call from Tricia, the hospice nurse. Grandma either has died or is expected to do so today. I do not have further details. Mom, of course, is driving down in an hour or so. I am at work today. When more information and plans are known, one of us will be in touch.


I am very glad I stayed longer than I had planned when I visited her on Sunday.

This was a shock to come in to this morning. She had looked comparatively good on Sunday, and I was planning to be back on Saturday, and we were tentatively planning things into the following week. I would have guessed this would be 3-4 weeks from now.

I'm afraid this is not going to be a very productive day for me.
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But wait, there's more...

So, got home to find a message on my cell phone's voicemail.

Apparently, when my mom reached the Evergreens, she found that Grandma had woken up and was cheerfully visiting with everyone. (So, clearly this morning's message really was "we think it's going to happen" and not "we don't want to tell you it already happened until you're here.")

Of course this is wonderful news, but I hope we're not going to have this back-and-forth for weeks. I can't take the grief and waiting to be told what to do on a regular basis.

And all I can really think of is a Monty Python bit.

Thank you all for the messages of support. They were needed, and apparently will be again.
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